2 Fools find no pleasure in understanding,
but only in expressing their opinion.
8 The words of gossips are like choice snacks;
they go down to the inmost parts.
13 Those who answer before they listen
are foolish and disgraceful.
Reflection
Have you ever felt really heard by someone?
Maybe they gave you space to name something you’d been carrying. Maybe they responded in a way that made you feel understood and less alone.
There is tremendous power in listening. It helps us grow in awareness, empathy, and love. It can even help us discover ourselves. In my own life, I heard my call to ministry by listening to someone else share theirs. I discovered I could forgive someone who deeply hurt me by listening to their fears and intentions. I found my passion for art by listening to my own inner longings and the encouragement of others.
When we experience the power of listening, we realize how desperately we all need it — and how poorly most of us practice it.
Our desire to be heard can keep us from hearing others. We miss what someone is expressing because we’re preparing our rebuttal. We speak before considering how our words will land. We rush to defend instead of slowing down to understand.
And if I’m honest, I often struggle to listen to God too. It’s easy to list off what I want or need without pausing long enough to hear God’s reply.
The writer of Proverbs reminds us that listening is a sacred discipline. It has the power to change us and the world around us, but it must be practiced intentionally.
We live in a world that rewards quick reactions more than careful attention. But Scripture teaches us that wisdom sounds different. Wisdom pauses. It pays attention. It asks another question before making another statement.
Jesus modeled this kind of listening constantly. Before healing people, he often asked questions. Before correcting his disciples, he listened to their fears and confusion. He noticed the people everyone else overlooked — the woman at the well, the blind beggar, the grieving sisters at Lazarus’ tomb. Jesus listened in a way that made people feel seen.
That’s what most of us long for — not necessarily advice or agreement, but to be seen, known, and understood.
Listening is one of the purest forms of love we can offer another person. Deep listening says: Your story matters. Your experience matters. I am willing to make room for you.
So how might you practice listening in a way that leads to love today?
Ask one more curious question. Sit with someone whose perspective differs from your own and listen for their heart. Reach out for support instead of carrying something alone. Sit quietly with God for a few extra moments before moving on.
You may be surprised what healing, understanding, or transformation becomes possible when we truly listen to one another.
by Kate Monahan
Prayer
God, teach us to listen with patience, humility, and love. Quiet our need to rush, defend, or speak first. Help us make room for others — and for You. May our listening become a doorway to deeper compassion, healing, and relationship. Amen.
